Thursday, November 20, 2014

Pelajaran hidup setakat 25 tahun

Bismillah.

So the 2014 is about to come to an end. Yet everyday I feel new and fresh. I am so grateful, that not one day passed except with new experience, new lessons. Everyday I woke up as someone new, and every night I sleep as someone new. 

Soalan pertama bila pakcik pakcik dan makcik makcik jumpa aku adalah, "Macam mana bisnes? Okey?" Heheh. I don't know why. Maybe because they were expecting my business, MLM lah katakan, tak akan kekal lama. Terutama sekali pakcik dan makcik yang selalu melihat aku bekerja di jalan-jalan di area Wangsa Maju ni. "Business okey?" Maybe dorg tengok jugak, kerja aku ni macam tak grand lah kan. Duduk tepi-tepi jalan pitching orang. 

"Assalamualaikum kak. Kami ada buat pemeriksaan kesihatan pecuma. Akak boleh cek lemak dalam badan akak, 3 minit je. Pernah cek lemak?" Lalu akak yang sedang berjalan mengangkat tangan tanda tidak mahu. Kemudian aku tegur orang selepasnya pula. Tak glamour you kena reject gitu bawah panas. Heheh. 

"Assalamualaikum kak. Akak pernah dengar Herbalife SKIN? SKIN merupakan produk kami yang baru launch tahun ini. Harini kami buat survey tentang kulit. Kalau akak jawab survey kami, akak boleh dapat complimentary facial trial. Nak tak?" Kalau untuk SKIN pula. 

Awalnya yang selalu tanya khabar aku pakcik kedai makan situ. Baik orangnya. Setelah berbulan berlalu, pakcik kedai makan pun tak larat nak tanya agaknya aku maintain je terpacak sana setiap beberapa hari, dengan jawapan, "Alhamdulillah, okey pakcik! Jemputla datang kelab kami. Orang lain dah, pakcik bila lagi?" *senyum colgate*

Sekarang ni pakcik bank pulak tanya. Pakcik guard, pakcik banker, pakcik kerepek pattani, semualah. Bank pun ada 4 bank kat sana. Semua tanya benda sama. "Bisnes okey?" Heheh. 

Intro takde kena mengena. Saja je nak buat cerpen. Lama dah tak menulis ala-ala cerpen. Asyik blog fakta dan formal. 

As of 2014, usiaku mencecah 25 tahun. Perjalan hidupku masih lagi hanya berniaga Herbalife. Walaupun hanya dalam dunia Herbalife, BANYAK SANGAT experience aku dah dapat. Alhamdulillah. Pembuka rezeki kami yang melimpah ruah dari Allah adalah pada usia aku 23 tahun (approximately lepas 6 tahun berkecimpung secara serius dalam perniagaan ini). Pada usia aku 23 tahun tu, bila aku dah mula dapat semua yang aku inginkan dalam hidup ALHAMDULILLAH, aku mula fikir apa lagi yang akan ada dalam perjalanan hidupku di depan. What else can I do?? 

Confuse jugak sebenarnya waktu tu. Saat kawan-kawan aku bergelut mengharungi tahun 3 degree di universiti, aku pulak sudah kecapi kejayaan dari sudut material. Kalau orang habis belajar akan kerja untuk bina kehidupan, aku sudah 'settle down' bak kata orang putih. Ada rumah, ada good car, ada anak. Syukur Alhamdulillah. Yang di mata orang ramai itu kejayaan, pada Allah hanyalah salah satu ujian hidup. 

Sampai suami tanya, "Apa lagi yang ina teringin nak beli?" "Takde. I have everything I need...". It seems too good to be true, in reality, being in that position, I was well aware that this is indeed my new test in life. Allah is testing me. To be able to achieve everything ever wanted to have, dari sudut material. Alhamdulillah.

"Now what?" Soal hatiku. Lalu aku mula mengubah karangan doa ku. (I would keep my prayer undisclosed) 

Dua tahun berlalu, kini usiaku 25 tahun. Alhamdulillah, Allah seperti biasa terus menjawab doa aku. Allah memberi kebaikan dan hikmah hidup yang tak pernah aku terbayang akan dapat suatu ketika dulu. Kalau pada usia 23 tahun itu aku tanya Allah, apa lagi yang aku boleh buat dengan hayatku? Lalu Allah aturkan segala kejadian dalam tempoh 2 tahun ini, hinggalah tiba di hari ini. I'm so much better than who I was 2 years ago MashaAllah. Bayangkan saja jika Allah biarkan aku bersama akhlak yang sama 2 tahun lalu, sedihnya. Jadi bersyukurlah, tak kira anda sedang gagal ataupun berjaya, jika anda lalui hari ini dengan akhlak yang lebih baik dari hari sebelumnya, bersyukur pada Allah kerana Allah mahukan anda berubah. 

Jadi harini aku ingin tuliskan life lessons yang telah aku pelajari sepanjang 25 tahun hidup ni. Agar aku sendiri takkan lupakannya, under any circumstances, we may lose our youth, our beauty, our friends, family, but may Allah hold us strong so we won't lose our attitude. 

This year, 2014, I am 25 year old, is the best year I have ever been in. 
And I hope next year is better by Allah's will!! :)


1. Jangan buat benda kerana orang lain

2. Jangan ikut flow, kecuali anda MAHU ikut flow

Like seriously, the flow wont promise your success. It may promise safety, like staying at home all day to remain safe, but it won't promise you success. Unless your life goal is already in the flow, then follow the flow. 

3. Jangan takut pada dunia, dan Allah's creation

I posted in my facebook wall:

"Jangan lalu situ, kawasan kemalangan."
"Elakkan pergi ke sungai, banyak kencing tikus"
"Jangan pergi Cameron Highland tengah musim landslide"
"Elakkan naik MAS, banyak kes dah."
"Jangan bawak anak kerja, duduk rumah je. Nanti cepat sakit jumpa ramai org"
"Jangan duduk hotel, orang jahat letak camera"
"Jangan jadi kaya, nanti kena rompak"
Dan sebagainya. Tak masuk lagi all the scary things that can happen to our children. 
Sungguh dunia itu bukanlah tempat untuk istirehat dan berselesa-selesa. Kita pilihlah untuk letak Allah dalam gambaran, atau buang Allah dari gambaran hidup kita. Akhirnya bila kita terbangun di akhirat, dunia ini hanyalah terlelap seketika.
Bukanlah nak kata jom buat semua yang merbahaya. Tapi jangan elakkan sesuatu yang kita suka/perlu buat hanya kerana takutkan dunia.
Jadi beranikan diri untuk berjuang. Asalkan hidup berasaskan Quran dan Sunnah, baca doa pagi petang Rasulullah yang penuh dengan doa perlindungan, ketenangan, rezeki, dan sebagainya, hiduplah dengan berani. Kerana Allah itu sentiasa dalam gambaran hidup.
Setiap yang kita lalui di dunia ini adalah aturan Allah. Semoga setiap langkah yang kita ambil in response, mendekatkan kita kepada Allah. 

4. Mulut orang, mulut longkang, hati busuk, semua memang ada. Tak boleh elak. Change yourself, be patience, pray more, avoid them. But if they comes in your way, you know you can't change them, you can change yourself. Leave them.

5. When Allah sets someone to stay in your life, no matter how bad you treat them they will stay. When Allah sets someone to leave your life, no matter how good you treat them they will leave you, hurt you, frustrate you. So let go of relationships yang tidak menjadi, appreciate those yang ada in the present moment, buat baik pada semua orang kerana Allah, forgive others kerana Allah, be honest and open kerana Allah. because whatever you do, Allah dah tetapkan your relationship with someone tu mcm mana. If someone mmg akan leave you no matter what you do, why not just do good, FOR ALLAH. Not for them. 

We asked ourselves, "Where did I go wrong? Kenapa tiba-tiba dia leave?" Well... it's just meant to be. Sometimes, someone we trust most, hurt us. So belajar menerima manusia itu ciptaan Allah di dunia, none of Allah's creation can give happily ever after. 

If someone is meant to leave us no matter what we do, why not we just do good? :)

6. Whatever people say, hold strong to your family, your spouse. People will give comments about your life, your marriage, your everything. The more you listen, the more you broke your life (or marriage). Don't ask your spouse to change just so it may look good in front of others. As long as your spouse isn't doing something bad in Allah's eyes, don't ask him/her to change for others.

7. Money is just a tools. Happy people will be happy with or without money. Nice people will remain nice with or without money. So don't be in a bad mood or sad or worry about money so much. Learn to be happy when you are poor. Sad poor people will become sad rich people. Same with your Iman. Poor mukmin, when given money, will become rich mukmin. Money wont change someone. It will only make someone show their true colour. So if you don't have that much money now, train your attitude now.

8. Naik turun, susah senang, itu hanya dunia. Mungkin hari ini kita susah di dunia, supaya kita bersabar dan Allah sedang cash in kan pahala kita setiap masa kita bertindak dengan masalah ikut cara Allah suka. Kalau fikirkan masalah itu, kita akan risau takut stress semuanya. Tapi kalau kita zoom out pandangan kita kepada dunia ciptaan Allah, semuanya jadi kecik, malah kejayaan dan kegagalan itu juga sama nilainya pada Allah. Semuanya, berjaya atau gagal, method untuk kita kutip pahala demi pahala. Jadi janganlah bersedih dan berduka dengan ujian Allah. Pohonkan saja doa, dan mintak sahaja ganjaran syurga sebagai tukaran susah payah dunia ini. Semoga Allah ampunkan semua dosa-dosa silam kita yang sangat banyak tu, apabila kita berakhlak baik menghadapi ujian ini. 

9. Whatever you are going through now, DON'T COMPLAIN. Because this is the result of your choice 5 years ago. If you want the next 5 years to be different, CHANGE YOURSELF NOW. Susah, sebab tulah tak ramai orang yang bahagia. Refusal to change. :)

10. Be brave in fighting. We all are gonna die anyway. Be brave in achieving our dream for the sake of Allah. Be brave in trying. Be brave in failing. Be brave.

11. DONT TRY TO CHANGE ANYONE. Everyone is perfect the way they are. Learn to live with it, or if you can't, avoid them. But don't try to change them, don't spread to others how bad they are, because they are perfect the way they are. 

12. Be happy in all circumstances. It's hard, but train yourself. Because if you let circumstance affect you, you'll go through sufferings many times in your life, because life in this world is just a test. Happiness is inside out, not outside in. And the best way to keep our happiness in all circumstances, is to remain close to Allah's word. Allah created us and the world and the universe. Allah has the power to give us a never ending energy of happiness. So be happy. 

13. Set rules on your smart phone usage, 8am-8pm only, especially if you have children. Let it be 8pm onwards totally family time and leave your handphone in the drawer. Your family needs you more than your whatsapp or facebook.

14. Don't facebook your negativity. Seriously. Don't. Only high schooler does that, and those with the brain of high schoolers. -__-" I used to do that. And it's embarrassing to remember.


Macam tulah coretannya setakat 25 tahun hidup. Banyak je lagi kan, tapi takdelah nak ingat sekarang dah.. We learn life the hard way. I wish I can read life in books so I can be a better person as a whole, but life is just a test. I can't be perfect today, and yesterday. But I can forgive myself and others, everyday. 

I am not perfect. I do have someone I hate (tak sengaja oke tp mcm mana kita buat baik pun mesti dia akan sembur racun kat kita. SERIOUSLY, EVERYTIME!!), someone I feel annoyed to. I have someone I cannot forget how they hurt me. I'm not sure if I can still smile when I meet them face to face. Sometimes I burst my anger, express my dislikes openly. Sometimes I sound arrogant (I do realize it afterwards but it's too late to change), sometimes I get irritated by crowd and I runaway despite my figure as a well known person. Sometimes I make frowned face and I couldn't smile when people come to me and ask to take photos, selfies, repetitively, sampai gambar tu perfect sangat. Sometimes I get angry over silly questions, I feel like screaming when I heard silly excuses. If you can spend a week with me, and watch me, you aren't gonna like me. Because I am a terrible person.

I regret the moment I hurt people. I can't be an angel, but I can be a human, and a human always try to be better, for the sake of Allah, not for the people to see how good I am, or not for the people to mention my name as a very nice person. Not at all. 

In the end, the only heart I cared about to take care of, is my parents, my husband, and my children. Life become simple, and HAPPY. Alhamdulillah.


Thank you Allah for 2014, the best year ever! :)


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