Suami yang baik menegur isteri berlebihan berat badan, isteri yang baik cuba menurunkan berat badan.

Bismillah.

Agak tersentuh bila membaca status FB & tweet UStaz SaifulISlam. Katanya;

"Kes kecurangan rumahtangga sekarang ni amat kritikal. Sangat ramai suami 'soleh' buat perangai. Secara jujur, saya jadi gelisah melihat muslimah-muslimah yang gemuk, anak berderet, tidak menjaga penampilan.

Its not fair sebab lelaki pun ramai yang gemuk, hodoh, tidak jaga penampilan dan makan sesuka hati. Tetapi apakan daya, realiti menyebabkan lelaki lebih mudah mensesiakan isteri. Maka sebagai suami, dan saya tahu saya tidak pernah dilantik menjadi jurucakap para suami, saya nasihatkan, kaji betul-betul watak isteri Rasulullah SAW terutamanya Khadijah dan Aisyah. Mereka sangat berbeza daripada watak 'wanita solehah' kita.

Mereka wanita yang lively.

Bukan sami'na wa atha'na, setia di rumah menguli tepung, menjaga makan minum anak-anak dan suami serta kuat beribadah. Mereka adalah wanita dinamik, ada kerjaya, malah 'mengajar' para sahabat, sub kepada tugas Rasulullah SAW.

Watak surirumah solehah kita banyak mematikan sunnah sebenar wanita yang dikehendaki Islam terutamanya aspek Sunnatullah"

Jarang para-para Ustaz ni nak menyentuh soal berat badan, kesihatan, dynamik. Tapi yelah, this is Wellness Era. Kalau dulu susah nak cari blender juice comel2. Blender bawang n sambal kemain banyak. Sekarang macam2 intervention blender makanan sihat terhasil, because this is wellness era. Dan Alhamdulillah para-para Ustaz juga dah mula menyentuh soal berat badan.

Haritu aku baca tweet someone. Katanya:

"Boyfriend yang baik tak tegur girlfriend gemuk.". Kemudian dibalas oleh sahabat saya JoeGrimJow "Girlfriend yang baik turunkan berat badan untuk boyfriend."

First of all, boyfriend and girlfiend---statement yang menyakitkan mata. So kite tukar ke suami dan isteri. Because whatever it is, boyfriend dan girlfriend sama sekali TIDAK ada hak atas satu sama lain.

Second of all, "Suami yang baik tak tegur isteri gemuk." Suami yang tak tegur isteri menggemuk mungkin suami tu pandang perempuan lain. -__- Mungkin lebih baik si lelaki menegur perempuan gemuk kerana dia sayangkan perempuan itu, daripada senyap2 usha gadis hot hot badan tip top kat mall. Aku buat survey pada few lelaki, benarkah ada lelaki yang tak kisah isterinya gemuk? JAwab mereka mostly, "Lelaki mana tak sukakan kecantikan?"

Kalau iye pun lelaki tu tak kisah, mungkin sebab lelaki tu pun dah lose faith tentang healthy weight loss, menyebabkan si lelaki taknak bising2 sangat berat badan isteri, kang buat liposuction sampai meninggal, susah pulak kan. Kalau korang nak percaya, kitorg one family guna Herbalife untuk kesihatan dan weight management. Kalau taknak percaya, suruhla isteri korang jogging 3km sehari dan menjaga makan secara STRICT. Kalau tak lose weight jugak datang balik k. I akan ada je kat sini INSYAALLAH. :D

Dan kepada suami, JANGAN COMPLAIN JE, TOLONGLA CARIKAN SOLUTION!! Part ni kadang2 nak juga aku lesing some husband yang taknak spend untuk wife lose weight. Mahal katanya. Ohhhhh, complain nak lebih, duit taknak invest!

SI isteri pulak, apa salahnya jaga kecantikan untuk suami? Ada pulak keluhan suami, "Saya dah cakap, tapi die terus marah dan merajuk." Mula-mula aku ingatkan isterinya mungkin sensitif, tp lama-lama tenung, bertahun-tahun tak ubat penampilan, even kekemasan pakaian sangat selekeh. Ini bukan sensitif, ini MALAS!! Aiyoo, kakak, nak kahwin ke tak sebenarnya ni? Berhias untuk suami kan dapat pahala. :)

Mama kata, dulu time baru kahwin, Abah kata, "Jangan gemuk ye." Tapi malangnya, agak susahla untuk maintain berat badan since metabolism kite semakin ramai anak semakin rendah, dan makanan yang kite ambil tetap sama. Menyebabkan selepas anak ke-4 berat Mama naik mendadak.

Mama sangat stress. Bila Mama stress, Abah tak perlula bising dah kan. ABah pun support Mama buat ape-ape je untuk weight loss die. Dorang SAMA-SAMA cari produk di internet, tak jumpa. Sampai one time ni kawan Abah (Uncle Ayob & Aunt Kamilah) perkenalkan Herbalife pada Mama. Mama grab the to try, and lost 10kg in 10 weeks.

Alhamdulillah.

Bila aku baru kahwin, Abang pulak pesan, "Abg tak suka gemuk k." Alhamdulillah. Dah kata coach Herbalife, takkan gemuk. Aku bukanlah pakar suami isteri ke apa. #justsharing some thoughts. ;)

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My life is getting more complicated

Bismillah.

Hi guys. Lama tak jumpa. Semalam one of my blog readers tanya "Kenapa lama tak update."

Erm erm erm. I have actually reach a point in my life where most of the things in my life cannot be shared anymore. Huh? Apekah? Haaa. Contohnya, aku suka berkongsi tentang jatuh bangun aku dalam kehidupan, atau lessons dalam kehidupan, and now, those things kebanyakkannya agak high level untuk general readers baca. Mungkin high level bukan perkataan yang sesuai. Mungkin dugaan2 aku lain daripada yang lain kerana jalan yang aku pilih selalu lain daripada yang lain. So sometimes, why should I share this? They wouldn't understand. They will understand my wrongly. Get it?

Kalau aku baca semula entri2 aku dari tahun 2009, aku nampak jelas perubahan yang berlaku pada diri aku since 2009 until now. Back then, and small tiny challenges could hit me hard and I could cry for days. TApi waktu tu aku nampak besar sangat dugaan. HArini bila baca balik, alahai. Amende entah. Hehehe.

I thought, "Life is really getting into something. and it gets more complicated."

Complicated. As some of you knows, organizations in Herbalife is growing bigger and better. MASYAALLAH. Semua kekuatan dan kehebatan itu pemberian dr Allah dan tiada siapa yang layak kita banggakan melainkan Allah. What complicate things is that the way I see the world is different. The way I see people is different.

Korea, 2009

Bangkok, 2011

BAck then, there's only us, and few downlines. Sidelines. Uplines. The world is so small that you can give focus on ALL your downlines. And now, we have to be really smart, we thought, to make sure all our downlines have enough attention, love, and care from us. People, it is NOT EASY. This is dealing with HEART. We can't really train our heart overnight. But being smart is not the answer. After years searching, being SINCERE. Is the best answer.

Back then, it was only me. And it grew to me and him. And it grew to me and him and her. Life is getting more complicated with additional people in my life, yet they are the sweetest things that could ever happen to me.

Caribbean Cruise, Romeo Juliet Dinner, 2011

To summarize, bebelan aku yang tepape harini, adalah

THE MORE COMPLICATED LIFE IS, THE SWEETER.

You know why life is complicated? BEcause we choose roads that less people took. It seems complicated. But if many people take the same road, the road will be simple. It is simple to be ordinary, single, 22-year-old girl that only attend classes, and the biggest crisis is girlfriend fight. But, man, my life is wayyyy to complicated than that because I choose different roads.

Oh, back then, early marriage is too complicated!!! But in HErbalife this year, there are more than 1o couples getting married. SO early marriage is getting more simple in HErbalife.

I also found that complicated stuffs can be simplified by LOVE. Complicated life with baby girl, solve it with love. Complicated life with husband, solve it with love. Complicated life with Herbalife, solve it with love to customers, distributors, and everyone! Of course behind love we also need intelligence as a mother, wife, and Herbalife leader. We also need leadership. I told you, IT IS COMPLICATED! Kalau setakat Love semata2, ada jugak yang kena pijak dan buli oleh downline karang. -__-' Not to say kena jadi garang (Ika selalu ckp nak jadi garang mcm Mel). TAk tak. Perhaps the best word is Love+Intelligence. It took me so long to figure these out. And as we move up in life, we will keep evolving to become a better person, better Muslim, and we will keep figuring out a better way to lead life. ALHAMDULILLAH.

Being a mother is complicated. What toys to buy that can help with her motor development? What food to give that can provide her best nutrition? What language should we use? Etc. Being a wife is complicated. We need intelligence and toleration, for both of us. How to make sure a discussion flow nicely so both of us have nothing hidden in our hearts in the end of any discussion. How to make him happy, me happy both at one time? You know, how we and our partners view the world around us is always different. There are always something we disagree about everyday. Being a Herbalife leader is complicated. How to love and guide, but not to spoil, our team? How to deal with unethical HErbalife distributors? How to deal with our heart when some of the people in our team just smash us on the face and step on us as if they are really great, but we know they are destroying themselves. How to solve the kind of people that create bad influence in the team and no one knows they are dangerous. I wish it is as easy as, "Please, you are viral, please quit HErbalife." But it's not.

BUt as I said, we evolve to get the answers, and we become better. When we already have the POWER to control these responsibilities, it is the most amazing feeling we could feel after all the crisis and break down. All of us, we are born to take up responsibilities, and we have the power more than we can ever imagine. It is really up to us.

TAke care of our hearts and mind. It could change ourselves and our world more that we can ever imagine. And I also have a lot more things to improve. ;)

ps: I coach people to earn income and change their lives through Herbalife. If you know anyone who wanted to change their lives to become better, just email me.

ps: I also DO NOT entertain HErbalife distributors that email me to ask questions on business, because there are SO MANY OF YOU. Please contact your TAB Team upline, I am very sure they can answer your questions because all of us are the same. But INSYAALLAH, I will entertain you if you come as see me in HErbalife events. NOT ON PHONE, NOT ONLINE. Tq.

Analisis impian 2011

Bismillah

Pada tahun 2010, all my dreams came true. 2010 aku nak kahwin, aku dah kahwin. Aku nak ada kereta, aku ada kereta. Sedetailnya aku dah cerita di dalam entri ini.

Tadi godek2 buku2 nota Herbalife tahun 2010. And I found this.

Seriously, dalam Herbalife, we repetitively will get through this every year. We write down dreams and goals pada hujung tahun, untuk tahun berikutnya. Pastu kite terlupa kite letak kat mana buku yang kite tuliskan goals kite tu. Pastu kite kerja dan kerja. Bila hujung tahun tiba, semua orang kat Facebook and Twitter bising pasal dah achieve ke azam kite tahun ni? Baru terkedek2 cari balik buku yang kite tuliskan azam kite.

Last year on September 2010 di Macau Herbalife University kami tuliskan goal ni. We really want Mill Team badly time tu. Honestly, aku tak suka pakai pin GET. Rasa stress dan pressure yang panas bila pakai pin merah tu.

Benda ni aku tulis sebab Captain Saiful suruh buat homework kenapa nak achieve Mill Team 2011. Pastu aku tulis benda2 ni…tak banyak pun kan? 2 benda je aku nak achieve tahun 2011: baby + umrah.

Kuantiti goal aku ni mungkin sedikit, tapi impaknya besar sangat! Heloo.. anak kot. Helooo, umrah kot! Dahlah atuk dan tokwan aku makin meningkat usia, sampai bile pulak aku nak biar diorang tunggu kan? Time aku World Team lagi, aku janji dengan atok, kalau aku dpt pin hijau aku bawak dorang ke umrah. 3 bulan lepas aku janji tu, dorang tanya, "Wan dah bangun setiap malam doa ni, dah dapat dah pin hijau?" T__T *reminder, aku World Team lagi time tu*

Nak ke relax kalau tau atok dan tokwan aku yang dah tua tu menunggu janji aku tertunai. Huahuahuaaaa. Bila dah kahwin, aku pun explain kat Abang tentang janji zaman bujang aku. Hehehe. So he's involved too to work on it.

So bila aku tulis goals tu, atas sekali Captain Saiful telah menekankan target how much I should bring to Spectacular: 100 people. To be specific, 100 people who paid for their tickets because they themselves WANTED TO CHANGE THEIR LIVES. Bukan skim tipu2 k. I did not get anything if they attended events. It's only the more lives I help to change, the nearer I am to my dreams. (So ade orang nak kejar impian ke skang? hehe)

So there are my dreams all achieved.

80 orang k Spectacular (a little less than 100)

Millionaire Team

Ada anak

Dan pergi ke Umrah

Alhamdulillah. Syukur sangat pada Allah sebab sekali lagi menjawab semua doa2 aku. Ada 1 je impian 2011 yang tak ter achieve, itu pun sebab kena tolak tarikh ke Januari 2012 ni, sebab kekangan masa. Alhamdulillah. Tq Allah.

Seriously, 5 years ago, I had no idea how can these resolution came true. But after realizing that ALLAH is powerful of all things, and ALLAH make all the impossible possible, ALLAH create magic!! I would say. Thank you Allah.

So, untuk tahun 2012, goal aku…hehehe. Tak best la pulak kan nak announce. I'll just write it in a book, make a dream board out of it, and present it again no December 2012 k? Stay tuned!!

You can keep watching how all our dreams achieved,

or you can start working on you life too. Wsalam. ;)

Asiyah, My Jewel of Jannah

Bismillah.

Jarang betul aku update blog sekarang. I have reach to one point in life where I feel like, "Not everything about my life can be shared with the outside world." Jatuh bangun yang pelbagai. Lagi2 pasal anak. Bila melibatkan anak, apa2 yang kite nak share pun fikir 10x. Kalau tak perlu share buat apa nak share kn?

Entri harini tentang Asiyah. Asiyah binti Muhammad Abqari, dan Asiyah permaisuri Fir'aun.

Saat aku kandungkan anak aku Asiyah ni, memang saat paling banyak ujian dalam hidup aku. Aku tak pernah rasa detik kepayahan, kesusahan, yang memaksa aku untuk jadi kuat yang lebih hardcore daripada saat aku kandungkan Asiyah. Dan yang paling magical nya Allah kurniakan saat tu jugaklah aku rasa kekuatan yang teramat kental yang aku tak tahu datang dr mana. Allah has prepared for me everything!

Bila nak menamakan Asiyah, aku dengar je lagu 'Ratu Shahadah' kisah Asiyah permaisuri Fir'aun, aku baca Quran kisah Asiyah, I feel strongly attached, I know she is my Asiyah. She is my strength. I tried to put another name, but it just doesn't match. I tried to put nama Balqis, sebab kisah Balqis juga ada dalam Al-Quran, menceritakan kebijaksanaannya dan bagaimana hebatnya Balqis sebagai seorang Ratu. But it doesn't match.

Asiyah. She's really, a symbol of my strength.

Lepas bersalin je, aku menjadi seorang wanita, seorang ibu, seorang isteri, seorang anak, yang manja. Kuat nangis, kali ini menangis lemah, bukan menangis kuat seperti ketika aku mengandung dulu. Dipukul angin sikit teresak-esak mengadu pada suami, kakak, ayah dan ibu. Dan juga kawan2 rapat aku. Sampai dorang kata,

"Sejak dah jadi ibu ni, dah makin manja."

Sometimes, when a wave came and hit me, I cried and cried and cried. "Benci...benci..." I said. So weak. So helpless. I didn't know what to do. I look into my baby Asiyah. Why is it when you left my womb, I've lost strength. So I hugged her. I know she'll grow and become a strong Muslimah. She, InsyaAllah, have the power to change the world. I pray for Allah to protect her from the evil of this world and guide us all to Jannah.

When I feel weak and helpless, she crawled to me smiling, calling me with her baby language, laughing. As if she's telling me, "Mama, you cry again..." And then I hugged her. It made me feel better.

So today, I found a story of Asiyah, The Jewel of Jannah.

Jewels of Jannah

There are some women whose resolve you can't shake. They are strengthened by Allah and submit to nothing except Allah. Even the greatest Tyrant cannot make them give up their Faith. Asiyah the wife of Firaun was one such woman. Her strength & status will forever remain an example for all mankind.

She was a woman who never allowed herself to be defined or limited by her painful circumstances. She carried in her such a Deep Faith and Knowledge of who she really was that she was willing to die for what she believed in. The Prophet (s.a) mentioned her as one of the greatest woman of all times. Her Faith was so strong that she was willing to die for it. When Firaun found out that she believed in the oneness of God he tortured her severely but her belief in God was so strong. Despite living in luxury like a Queen she knew her true home was in Paradise. No attachments to this life. Despite all the persecutions she was going through, Allah made it easy on her so much so that when she was tortured she could still smile. If Allah is with you even the hardest struggle can become light. If you can see your home with Allah in Jannah, No matter what you are going through in this life it can become easy. We have different things in life thrown at us. What are we going to define our self worth by? Women's self worth are mostly defined by society by how attractive they are, how thin they are. Our self worth should only come from ONE relationship and that is our Relationship with Our Creator. In the Story of Asiyah is an everlasting example woman who chose the Hereafter over all of the glitter of the World. A woman whose love for Allah and the yearn to return to Him was greater. A woman whose faith inspired her to take on the greatest Tyrant of her times

~ May Allah Bless Her with the Highest Jannah Ameen {Extracted from Yasmin Mogahed Lecture}

Firstly, statement "She was a woman who never allowed herself to be defined or limited by her painful circumstances.", cukup menggambarkan jiwa aku ketika mengandungkan Asiyah.

Aku juga terharu dengan ayat,

Despite living in luxury like a Queen she knew her true home was in Paradise.

dan

If Allah is with you even the hardest struggle can become light.

Pastu aku juga tersentap dengan ayat: What are we going to define our self worth by?

Dalam life kite semua banya masalah, cabaran, dugaan, tapi kalau kite lemah2 berputus asa, soalan di atas memang tepat sekali untuk kite.

Akhir kata, semoga Allah memelihara kite semua sampai ke Jannah. Ameen.

(Ps: Nampak tak aku dah kurang pandai membebel? Tapi in the end point sampai jugak kan? So paham2 sendiri jela.)